What needs to be learned is control of the heat and restraint of the flame, so you don’t burn out too quickly.

Most of the time, men like it when their penis is touched, and they also like a steady pace, building up towards orgasm.
After the orgasm, men need to pause for at least a few minutes before they can continue.

Women are different.
It takes them longer to become sexually aroused, but once that happens – they can ride waves of pleasure, including multiple consecutive orgasms, with no physiological need to stop.

A man who wants to pleasure a woman tends to do it at the pace he would want to be pleasured.

He has good intentions and is ready to give his all, but in most cases, it won’t work – his pace will be too fast, and he might focus too much, causing too much friction on the clitoris, which results in an uncomfortable sensation that blocks the flow of the act.

Therefore, the assumption for a successful sexual encounter should be that your partner is different from you, that your rhythms are fundamentally different, and that what feels good to you may not be suitable for her.

You are different and need to feel your way and find a common path.